Sending cards to estranged family members 101

Having faced a great deal of family turmoil myself over the years, I know the toll of being estranged from a loved one all too well. So much so, it’s embarrassing to talk about because it’s deep-rooted in trauma and tremendous pain. Perhaps that’s why I’ve developed a knack for writing and creating unconventional greeting cards.

To send or not to send

Without boring you with too much detail, being estranged from one of my best friends doesn’t stop me from sending her a birthday card every year. Now, will we ever reconnect? Sadly, no. But given the circumstances surrounding our history, I’m forever indebted and will always love her with all my heart.

Should you send a birthday card to your estranged sibling, mother, father or friend? Absolutely, but only if it feels right to you.

Choosing the perfect card

Every severed relationship looks different. So, I created a one-size-fits-most estranged birthday card in hopes of helping people reconnect. Granted, if reconciliation isn’t your goal, that’s perfectly fine too and without further ado…

Finding the right words

How to say happy birthday to an estranged parent, relative​ or friend depends on the card you choose. A simple “happy birthday” should suffice or “missing you, birthday girl” if you’re sending an estranged birthday card to your daughter, will do just the same.

Just don’t bring up anything heavy, unless you’re intentionally wanting to stir the pot.